In the early stage of
life ...two young adults at the age of 20 have joined together in their matrimonial
ceremony. But the couple had a long rocky
road to sustain their union. Failure of
the husband to provide, the going was very tough for them.
In few years of stay
with the wife’s parents was not a breeze. Misunderstanding between siblings,
underrated the couple because of their inability to self-sustain, and many
struggles that made the couple break their hearts. The wife had been crying at nights and confided
with her husband about her heartaches and on how she had been ill-treated by
her own siblings. Her brother asked her to leave from their parent’s premises and
the sister accused them of stealing milk while the father had been spreading
tales among his friend on how he wish the couple would just go away. However, though, the mother was kind and
supportive but couldn’t stop the mistreatment.
Meanwhile, the
husband was turned into a bitter and defensive as he was not able to do enough
to support his family despite hard work.
After that
humiliating incident, the couple with their one-year-old son, forced to seek
refuge in another town. They rented a
small space (not even a proper place that can be called a house) --- a bamboo
shaded room with earth-floored that flooded when it rains. At night they slept closed together and shared
an old sheet to protect them from cold. Their
ordeals made been strong to withstand against difficulties where
life-betterment was nowhere to be seen.
The husband took a
daring move by sending the wife back to the city to complete her degree while
he continued to operate a small food stall in the town to sustain their daily
needs.
Later, the husband
was involved in politics and got a job in their province. The husband considered this a chance and sent
his wife to take another degree after completing one. And they were able to send their son in an
exclusive private school in the city.
Unfortunately, it was
not a smooth sailing then; the husband left no other option and joined the
underground military movement and moved to the capital city for a secret
operation with a good compensation --- the money his family badly needed.
Until the good timing
and opportunity knocked on them, the couple with their son and a daughter
comfortably settle in a foreign country.
Having good-paying jobs and comfortably staying in their own house,
stability and comfort come to them, at last. Their son is successful in many
ways, while the daughter is also doing very well academically.
The couple could now
look back and smile but cannot help shed tears --- pain still persists! The couple is proud of their achievements and
they still love those who were mean and ill-treated them during those times of
their “nothingness”.
Consequently God
punished the members of the family, one of them died in awesome vein. The
brother was hit by a blitzkrieging cable that almost landed him to death while
the father suffered a brain disorder due to a motorcycle accident. And the
second daughter lost her business. The family had faithfully returned to Gods
well.
That’s the way God
wake-up them all even though at the time it may seem they neglect His call. A
root of bitterness or hatred in our lives can produce enormous harm to our
hearths and to our relationship with our family, relatives, brothers and
sisters.
They all know that in
spite of everything the husband of their ill-treated siblings is still one of
Gods created human being.
Lets forgive..
For centuries,
Albanians clans were known for their bloody family feuds. They considered it
cowardly not to avenge the suffering of one of their own. Sometimes retaliation
would set off a chain reaction that left members of the family neutralized
before it ended. In the Philippines ‘moro’ and ‘waraynon’ are almost the same
bloody traditions.
But the changes came about because the people found
something they desired more than revenge. They wanted to become a part of the
wider community, and also to unite in defending themselves against common
enemy, the poverty.
So too, the couple fight to end the miscarriage of
their life and maltreatment among siblings will end when they found the way to
end of their scarcity. Holding a grudge loses its appeal when the duo realizes
they are cutting themselves off from the support and enjoyment they need from
God.
Why pay high price by heightening your blood? We have too much more to gain by dropping our
grudges and extending forgiveness. That’s much more better than revenges.
The Lord said; “vengeance is from heaven... do not
avenge yourselves, ...for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, i will repay,
...what they did to you,” and the devil said; “I’m ready to go your holiness”
